Rules for Parties and Private Events
Here are the specific rules for private events:
- Do not show up before the official start time. If the invitation says the party starts at 8pm, show at at or after 8pm. Anything earlier puts a strain on the host and the people getting ready for the party.
- The host’s wishes reign supreme. This means everything, from if and where play is allowed, if the party is wet or dry, where to park, what type of play is allowed/not allowed, where nudity is acceptable, if naked butts on the furniture are ok, etc. If the host says “No”, don’t argue unless you want to be asked to leave. Remember, you’re in their home, and they are being very generous in agreeing to host a party in the first place.
- If alcohol is present, there will be NO under 21 attendants. Please act and behave like an adult, and drink responsibly. If you get inebriated to such a level that it becomes problematic for others trying to enjoy the party, then the person you came to the party with will be asked to take you home, or, if you arrived alone, a cab will be called and you will be sent on your way. Due to liability issues for the person hosting the party, you will not be allowed to drive yourself away from the party. If you’re inebriated, but not disruptive, you are free to ask the host if you can sleep over at their home for the night (this option will be handled on a case-by-case basis).
- No giving out the party address to anyone who has not received it from one of the group leaders. At all. Even if you just want to be helpful and you’re CERTAIN that them not receiving the address was an oversight. There could be a very good reason that someone did not get the address given to them, and it is not up to anyone else to override that decision. If this happens, advise the person to contact a group leader. If anyone is found to be giving the address out w/o permission, they will be asked to leave the group entirely.
- Touch is by permission only, this means people as well as toys.
- Respect other people’s relationships and dynamics.
- Clean up after yourself- this means your cups, plates, and bodily fluids that might be scattered about.
- Respect other people’s play space and scenes.
- No drama (examples include bashing, insults, or instigative behavior).
- Respect “your kink is not my kink”. If you see something you don’t like, or disagree with, keep your opinion to yourself and walk away. If you think there’s an issue of non-consensuality, alert the host or a group leader immediately.
- No drugs. Period. End of story.
- No firearms.
If you have have any questions about whether or not something is allowed or acceptable, find a group leader, ambassador, or DM and we will be happy to let you know. You can identify a leader or ambassador by the very stylish and ultra-chique GAP lanyards we wear at events.